Creating an Honesty Covenant (Drop the B.S.)

 Honesty Covenant

Creating an Honesty Covenant with yourself and others will be essential to your success and mental well-being.  In reality, the scale/checkbook/relationships/happiness does not lie. 

Misleading yourself or others as to how well you are behaving but just not seeing the results is detrimental to success.  Beyond being in a Physiological Plateau, here are the reasons I see that people do not succeed:

·         You were not ready to commit to a new/different lifestyle.

·         You did not know how to get started, and stay on the right track.     

·         You lacked the proper information/education.

·         You wanted a quick fix.

Be honest with yourself and others. Misleading yourself with statements like "I am ok." or "I am eating pretty good" or "I can't seem to save money no matter what!" or "I cannot get along with my spouse no matter what!" or "I am too busy to exercise." are lies.  Look internally and decide if you are emotionally protecting yourself by not facing up to your actions and then list out the half-truths and absolute illusions that you feed your brain on a daily basis.

Ask for help when you need to and stay the course.

Figure out what issues/challenges you face and find long-term solutions.  If you are not changing, then there is an issue with one of the following: 

Food - Fitness – Focus

Have you been honest?

If not, how have you been deceiving yourself?

How can you course correct?

If you decide to live your life in this way, if you drop the stories and the B.S. from your life, you will move ahead and achieve at speeds that you never thought possible.  You will find a new level of self-respect and pride. We all deceive ourselves from time to time. You can break the habit if you choose to.

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Drop the B.S. and get real.

To your health,

Robert

Your impulsiveness is costing you your goals

Your impulsiveness is costing you your goals

Your impulsiveness is costing you your goalsYour impatience and reactive decision making are two major causes of not reaching and maintaining your goals.  Consider how many times you have begun down a path only to change direction on a whim based on your mood and a fleeting feeling or scale fluctuation.

There is a major difference between A) acting with persistence and deciveness while maintaining flexibility in your plan and B) Reacting to every negative feeling and situation by altering your course.
Learn the difference to change your life.   -R. DeVito

Two major muscles that require daily strengthening are not in your body, but in your mind.  Your Patience muscle and your Strategy muscle.  If the only strategy you have relied upon for success is willpower (as in: I will not eat junk, I will not eat late, I will not eat this and that etc...) take a moment to see how futile that thought process is to your long-term success.
You'll need to learn more tools for your toolbox and learn to utilize those tools at different times based upon your needs.  Aligning your thoughts with your reactions will be a vital component to offsetting those feelings of anxiety and doom.


 If your success program does not include strategies to deal with all of the obstacles we ALL tend to deal with from time to time then reevaluate your program.  Give yourself a reality check, make a flexible and complete plan and get consistent with your emotions and actions.
You must accept that you need to UNlearn certain things and learn other NEW things in order to have a different persepective and life.

 Stay Positive - Plan Ahead - Rebound from Setbacks

If you have reached the point of total frustration and confusion and want to begin the process of learning to create real, long-term success in your weight loss, wellness and life then here a few resources for you:
In the Northern New Jersey area you should come and work with us at the IFS Weight Loss and Lifestyle Centers.  Here is 14 days free to get you started.  You will be among people that have been and are struggling just like you and will provide all of the Support, Commitment, Education and Motivation to aid you in getting started and maintaining the path to success.

Everyone KNOWS that they must Move More and Eat Better to get results.  But, if it were that simple you would have gotten there and stayed there already.  You may have "dieted" or exercised with minimal and unmaintainable success before.  Now is your time to put all of the pieces togehter for a complete Wellness and Fitness Program.

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If you are not in the NNJ area, then look into MyDynamicLife.net.  We will provide you the coaching and the tools to be successful from a distance.  You have nothing to lose.  There is a substantial amount of free content to help you and complete Wellness and Fat Loss Programs to redirect your life and understanding of what it takes to succeed.

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Yours in health,
Robert J DeVito

Measure and Reward your Success

Measure Your Success!  
Not by the scale! Weight loss is a slow and steady process. To truly achieve and maintain your ideal or goal weight it realistically could take months to a year. You must find alternate methods to measure your successes that are not scale related.  Pick some non-gym goals and keep track of how your exercise plan helps you increase your ability to succeed in multiple ways. Examples can be cutting strokes off of your golf game, running and chasing your children without becoming winded or carrying object(s) (laundry) upstairs or feeling better about yourself and having improved energy.

Reward Your Success
Give yourself nonfood rewards.  For example, buy yourself new clothes in smaller sizes or sign up for a massage.  You will soon realize that rewarding yourself with food is not necessary and oftentimes not as enjoyable as a lasting reward.

Yours in health,
-Robert

Slow and Steady

Steer clear of attempting to tackle everything at once.
Often, we take on too much and end up disappointed because we are unable to achieve all of our goals at once.
Change takes time.  It is a process.
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Choose 1-2 things that you can change in your eating patterns this week.

1. Perhaps, you can be sure to eat breakfast 2 more times than normal this week.
2. Maybe adding in 2-3 more glasses of water daily would help.
3. Reach for Fruit and Veggies before a treat.
4. Buy a Better BAD Version of your favorite treat(s).

Slow and Steady wins the race.

Create a new Attitude for Success

An Attitude for Success! Part I

Do you alternate between being “good” at sticking to a sensible eating plan and being “bad” when you slip? It’s a frustrating but common cycle for most of us, especially when we consider the self-defeating attitudes that labeling and acknowledging our “badness” create when it comes to food.  Many psychologists know that behavior modification strategies--rather than diets--can help us break this self-defeating cycle and make lasting lifestyle changes.

What is behavior modification? It begins with a change in self-talk and thought, which helps us change our attitudes about our eating, our bodies, and our weight, which helps us change our behavior. In terms of weight loss, our behavior will be reflected by how we feel inside, which will be reflected in how we appear on the outside. When we feel good about ourselves, we can’t help but be attractive to others. THIS is the ultimate goal—to feel better about ourselves inside, so that our bodies and personae will reflect confidence and light to others.

Be Supportive, Not Critical.
People lose weight at different rates. Weight may drop off quickly at first and then plateau, or vice versa. Your body composition may change, although your weight may stay the same.  The important thing is that long-term healthy behavior gets results.
Reassure yourself that you are working hard and remember that hard work pays off. Don’t judge your progress by your weight; instead, acknowledge that during the day or week you engaged in behaviors that will be rewarded down the road.

Set a Game Plan
You may know exactly what you want to achieve but not have a set plan to achieve it.
This is where I see many people fail.  They have great intentions but lack the action steps and action for success.

1. Set your Goals
2. Make you Plan
3. Take Action

This is an emotionally healthy start.  Have a great day.

Avoid repeating your mistakes

Avoid repeating your mistakes

As you can see from the chart below, a typical dieting cycle seems to begin with the frustration and frantic decision to lose weight.  However, a closer and more complete observation will reveal that between “Fall off the wagon” and “decision to lose weight” there are numerous “OLD YOU” habits that resurface.

We are creatures of habit and how we think forms our habits – hence – who we are.  Generally, when we reach a certain level of disgust, then and only then do we react with the proclamation of “Diet” in an attempt to reverse the habits that have formed.  The stages of change are commonly known among researchers and marketers know them as well.  Just because you want to change does not mean that you will.  If you do not utilize a staged approach you increase your risk of returning to old habits and continuing with the cycle of weight gain – weight loss – weight gain. 

Simply put, we gain weight because we either overeat, under move or both.  There is no denying this and no amount of excuses or justifications can change this.  My experience tells me that most people “graze themselves fat” or are “occasion gainers” meaning they eat “really great” most of the time and their occasional indulgences are too much to overcome through their (lack of) movement.

 

Do not fall into the mindset that you are a gross, overeating slob. This is not the case.  Do not mentally demean yourself and belittle your efforts towards success. Most people gain 1 -3 lbs. per year.  That is a calorie miscalculation of 10 – 30 calories average per day.  The drastic, restrictive and short-term methods that many of us choose to follow when we become disgusted with our “OLD YOU” habits are a recipe for continuation of the weight gain/loss cycle.  Realizing the changes that you can make and live with is essential to lifelong weight loss success.  You must be able to live by the resolutions necessary to reach AND maintain your goal.   Choose your changes wisely.  Be proactive and base your choices upon a Vision and Reasons.  The Reactive method you have repeated is a main culprit in your gradual but continual weight gain through the years.

The weight gain cycle is slow.  The weight loss cycle is slower.  Try not to make it more difficult by making and  repeating mistakes.

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